Yes, You Should Bring a Hostess Gift

Can you get away with not bringing a hostess gift to an event at someone's home?  I guess.  But, as Emily Post said, "A gift for your host or hostess is a lovely way to thank them for their hospitality and is always appreciated."  It's in poor taste not to bring a small gift if you are attending a cocktail or dinner party (cookouts count) and especially if you're a house guest for any length of time or you're attending a house warming party.

Remember that a good hostess gift does not have to be expensive or a big deal.  The best gifts are those that can be used for future entertaining, can be used that night, or is a little something extra that the host or hostess wouldn't necessarily buy for themselves.  The purpose of bringing a hostess gift is to show your appreciation for being invited.

A bottle of wine is nice, a bouquet of flowers is fine.  But, why give your host or hostess the same thing as everyone else?  Here are some of the more fun gift ideas I've seen around the internet lately (click to shop):

For those who happen to live in the DC area, my absolute favorite place to pick up fun and unique hostess gifts is The Nest Egg in Fairfax Corner.  They even gift wrap!  You'll also find plenty of things you're in dire need of yourself, guaranteed.

If you forget to pick a gift up before the event or if you leave it at home on the counter on the way out, don't worry!  I completely forgot to pack our hostess gift for my mother-in-law, Mrs. Morgan, when my husband and I went to his parents' house for a week-long stay.  You can redeem yourself within the laws of etiquette by sending a thank-you arrangement, box of treats, or other surprise by delivery after the fact.  Even the strictest of us have an etiquette lapse sometimes.